You don’t have to be a player to approach a woman. In fact, though players might be able to pick up a woman, they can’t sustain any kind of satisfying relationship because women are flat out tired of players.
The truth is that you can be yourself when you approach women. You don’t have to lie and try to build yourself up into being someone that you’re not. You don’t have to have any kind of fake approach technique, either.
What you do have to know is the art of flirting. This art is as old as the time. It’s that back and forth exchange of words or gestures that are all part of the relationship chase.
Both men and women enjoy this part of meeting someone. Everything is new and exciting and holds a lot of potential. You have to first realize that men and woman are so vastly different when it comes to relationships.
You might be thinking, “But I don’t want a relationship. I just want to pick up a woman.” That’s how your mind is working, but a woman is looking at you and wondering if you’re long term material in many instances.
You’ll be sized up at the same time you’re sizing her up. If you fail to measure up during the time she’s thinking about this, wondering if you’re long term material, you can kiss picking her up goodbye – much less anything more than that.
If you see a woman in a bar and she’s been hit on repeatedly and turned down every guy that’s offered to buy her a drink, you might think that you don’t have a chance.
But the problem is more women get hit on at a bar than any other place. She’s not playing hard to get. It could be that she’s become a little jaded because she’s heard so many lies and hype.
You have to be different. You need to act like a gentleman. Show awareness of how your actions might affect her. For example, if you walk up to a woman from behind and get her attention by tapping on her shoulder or speaking, this can put her on the defensive.
It’s always better to let a woman see you approach. If she has her back toward the room, walk up beside her, rather than behind her. Speak kindly and don’t be crude or vulgar.