Despite all of the things you might have read in articles or in books that talk about how a woman wants a sweet man who will worship the ground she walks on, women don’t always want that.
You know why the movies that are known as “chick flicks” are so popular among women and their friends? Because the hero acts like a man and he treats the heroine like a woman. And maybe there’s some tension between them at first – a chase.
Women want men who don’t pretend to be something they’re not. They want a man who will be kind and treat her with respect, not one who hands over his man card.
Women don’t want to lead or follow when it comes to relationships – even short term pick up ones. They’re looking for an equal partner – a man who isn’t afraid to stand up for her, for what he believes in and one who won’t lose himself just to make a score or keep a relationship.
If you’re interested in picking up a woman, don’t view her as someone who’s there to make your life easier. Too many men view women as compassionate (and they are) but when you meet a woman, don’t dump all of your dirt on her.
She’s probably got enough to deal with without carrying around your problems, too. Besides that, if you start treating her like you can “tell her anything,” that causes all of the mystery to leak from the relationship.
There’s nothing for her to discover about you because you’ve told her everything on the first date. When you make a woman feel sorry for your tough lot in life, or you go on and on about yourself, you’re on dangerous ground – because this is the fast track to the friend zone.
Regardless of whether things are rough for you or not, or if you just like talking about yourself, don’t treat the woman you’re interested in like your therapist – or you might find that she suggests you see one.
If you’re trying to pick up a woman, there are certain things you can say or do that will get her attention. You can compliment her. Tell her that her hair looks nice.
Comment on her perfume or what she’s wearing. Most women don’t get compliments. Not because men don’t think about it, but because they don’t say it. Making romantic comments and performing romantic gestures mean a lot to women.
They make you stand out as a man, because the majority of men don’t think along these lines – so women really notice when it happens. These gestures can be simple things like opening up a car or restaurant door for her, helping her with her coat, etc.
It’s not that she’s not capable of these things, but it makes you more attractive when you do gentlemanly things like this. If you’re trying to pick up a woman, you want to avoid those old eye-rolling pick up lines.
“Come here often?” or “I couldn’t help but notice you” are both lines that will turn off most women. She’s heard those a hundred times or more. Don’t use pick up lines.
Act like a man – even when you’re trying to pick up a woman. It’s okay to say, “I’m not very good at approaching women, but I am good at two-stepping/swing dancing, etc.”
Just say something that you’d normally say. And if you’re thinking of saying something along the lines of, “Want to go back to my place?” to a woman you just met and haven’t really even talked to, then you’ve already blown it.
Coming on to a woman that you haven’t even put any effort into getting to know, even if it’s a brief attempt, isn’t manly. It makes you look desperate and women will run from it.