It’s far too common to find those who complain about their lack of success in dating are those who never bothered to learn the basics without which more advanced dating techniques can never work.
This Beginners Guide to Dating is meant to be a guide on the first few steps that both newbies and experienced daters need to know to avoid frustration and failure.
There are millions of potential dates out there but only about 0.2% of the people looking for dates are right for each other so the first thing to do is to go out and start meeting as many people as you can. Love at first sight is a one in a million chance and most people have to spend a long time dating before they get to meet the right person for them.
Knowing where to look for dates is the first thing to learn – while workplaces and schools are obvious places, there are many more (like bars and clubs) if you just look around. Expand your circle of friends and meet their friends – one of those you meet could be the one you have been waiting for. Speed dating parties, chat room and online dating sites are great places to meet people who are searching for the same things you are and with million of people involved, your chances of success are good.
There is no use looking for a date if you are not a “dateable” person – everything depends on the first impression; even an online relationship must reach the real world sooner or later if it is to grow. Not everyone can look like Brad and Angelina, but there are very few aspects of your appearance that a good makeover and effective style tip will not change for the better so that the first impression you make is a positive one.
And after you get your appearance right, the next thing to work on is how you present yourself – you need confidence to show you are not needy, but overdoing it can be a big turn off to most people; so ensure you strike the right balance between confidence and arrogance. Some people are naturally confident and others have to work at it – if you belong to the latter type, start going to bars and night clubs with some friends and watch how others approach strangers and get talking to them – use any of the styles that work and which suit your personality.
And once you have approached someone and started a conversation you need to ensure that you can keep it going – there are many techniques you can pick up from online guides that will allow you use words to kindle his or her interest.