Before you start going out and meeting women, you need to be prepared. It’s important to make a good first impression, and that isn’t easy when you aren’t ready. You need to know what you’ve been doing that’s hurt your chances in the past, what you can start doing to make yourself more attractive, and how to tell if a woman is interested in you.
You need to learn what women want, how to become more interesting and fun, how to stand apart from other men (in a good way), and some of the best and worst ways to approach women.
Once you’ve decided what kind of woman you want and what kind of relationship you want to have with her, it’s time to figure out what your contribution will be. What are your best, most attractive features? What do you have to offer a woman? What is a woman going to find valuable about you? The answers may surprise you.
Next, you’ll want to enhance your best features and diminish your faults. You can break bad habits and replace them with better ones, take better care of yourself, and become more confident.
These things aren’t just for the benefit of the women you’ll meet – all this is going to help you become a happier, healthier version of yourself. No matter what happens, you win. It’s also important to be able to bounce back and move on if a woman isn’t interested or if you decide to break up.
The key to being able to come back and try again with someone else is to expect that you might not get the first girl that you ask, but you will get someone. You can’t take rejection personally. It may only mean that you need more practice or that you haven’t met the best person for you yet.
You also need to know the rules of dating. Not the “call her only after X number of days” kind, but the rules about what you can and can’t reasonably expect, and how to treat each other in a way that will make your relationship run more smoothly.
Every relationship is built on the idea of give-and-take. If you want your girlfriend to see you exclusively, you’ll have to see her exclusively. If you want your girlfriend to join you rock-climbing, you’ll have to be willing to join her running a race… or whatever else she loves to do.
You can’t expect her to drop everything and devote herself entirely to you, and she can’t expect it of you. You need to know the right way to not only begin a relationship, but also how to end it so that both of you will be able to move on successfully.
Good preparation increases your chances of meeting, getting, and keeping a great girlfriend, so don’t skip this important step.