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First, if you\u2019ve known her for awhile, possibly through work or church or going to the gym or whatever, then you\u2019ve probably already had some casual conversations with her and she already thinks of you as a friend.<\/p>\nYou\u2019re thinking, \u201cIf I don\u2019t ask for a date, how am I going to get one?\u201d It\u2019s not that you shouldn\u2019t ask for a date, it\u2019s that you should consider other ways of getting a date than just walking up to her and saying, \u201cWould you like to go out on a date with me?\u201d<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to use that old school technique anymore. Besides, she may not think of you as a potential date right off the bat, but after hanging out with you and getting to know you, she may.<\/p>\n
By then, you don\u2019t have to go through the formal process of asking her out \u2013 it will be more like evolving from a nice friendship into a dating relationship. You can ask for a date without sounding like a dork, or work your way into a dating relationship naturally and casually.<\/p>\n
First, if you\u2019ve known her for awhile, possibly through work or church or going to the gym or whatever, then you\u2019ve probably already had some casual conversations with her and she already thinks of you as a friend.<\/p>\n
She might already feel very comfortable hanging out with you after work for a bite to eat, or going to see a movie that you\u2019re both looking forward to. (\u201cHey, I\u2019ve been thinking about seeing that movie too, do you want to join me?\u201d).<\/p>\n
This gives you an opportunity to start things out on a friendly basis. Don\u2019t worry that she\u2019ll always look at you as a friend. She might, but then again, after you\u2019ve hung out a bit and she\u2019s had a chance to enjoy getting to know you and seeing what you have in common, she may be attracted to you in more than a friendly way. So, if you\u2019re already acquaintances or sort of friends, you can use that for a start.<\/p>\n
If you aren\u2019t friends yet, you can either work on establishing a friendship and build into a dating relationship from there, or you can ask her out in a way that doesn\u2019t make you uncomfortable if you\u2019re not sure she sees you like that.<\/p>\n
If you know her well enough to strike up a conversation, you can work your way into talking about things you both like to do and then ask if she wants to join you for that activity.<\/p>\n
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If you\u2019re both baseball fans, you can tell her you have a couple tickets and if she wants to come along she\u2019s welcome to. This way, you\u2019re telling her that you think she\u2019d have fun joining you, and she\u2019ll probably take the bait.<\/p>\n
You can also try something like mentioning that you\u2019re really looking forward to going kayaking as soon as the weather breaks. When she mentions that she\u2019s always thought kayaking sounds fun, but she\u2019s never done it, offer to take her and give her a beginner\u2019s lesson.<\/p>\n
There are lots of ways to ask someone out without getting all formal about it, which puts pressure on you and the woman. If you\u2019re already friends, just ask her to join you for fun activities and let her learn to appreciate how much fun you are to be with.<\/p>\n
If you don\u2019t know her well yet, try one of the other tactics and keep things very light and casual \u2013 no pressure. It will work better, and you both will feel more comfortable. Many nice guys are afraid of starting out as friends because they\u2019ve been given the \u201cjust friends\u201d speech before. But all solid relationships are built on friendships, so don\u2019t be afraid to take the first step on a \u201cjust friends\u201d basis and watch it progress into something more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"