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Somewhere in time, women became known as \u201cthe weaker sex.\u201d Tell that to Joan of Arc, Cleopatra, Annie Oakley or Susan B. Anthony. Obviously those women, an entire tribe of Amazons and possibly many of your friends would fiercely disagree. <\/p>\n
So why are you surrendering yourself to get the approval of some guy? You\u2019re falling for an idea that psychologists call the \u201capproval trap.\u201d Before you start to defend yourself, yes, it\u2019s great when you get affirmation from friends and co-workers for what you do. <\/p>\n
The problem is when you depend on their approval for who you are. See the difference? Handing over your self-esteem to anyone is a dangerous and usually damaging choice. The person whose approval you believe that you must have can respond honestly or dishonestly. <\/p>\n
He could choose to be an encourager to you or verbally take you down to his Neanderthal level. You\u2019re making a sucker bet by changing yourself to gain his approval. The price is simply too high.<\/p>\n
To attract a man who is secure in himself and ready to be an equal partner in a relationship, you have to be that kind of person. Like minds attract. If you\u2019re an insecure and clingy woman who has no idea who she is, then why do you think you\u2019ll attract a man who is the opposite? <\/p>\n
The type of man that you don\u2019t want is counting on you to play the old role of doing whatever it takes to snag him. Maybe you cut your hair when you don\u2019t want to or spend a week\u2019s paycheck to add hair weaves when you prefer short hair. <\/p>\n
Then you change your wardrobe from business classic to streetwalker glam because that\u2019s what he likes. You \u201clearn\u201d to drink or smoke because he wants you to do it even though you\u2019ve been adamantly opposed to both. <\/p>\n
In no time, you make excuses to ditch your friends because he wants to \u201cbe alone\u201d or \u201cexpand your circle.\u201d The way to snag this guy is to give up your life and your identity to be his personal toy. Bad deal for you, great deal for him.<\/p>\n
History also shows men as pursing the Holy Grail or the buried treasure. When motivated that the prize is worth the effort, men go to any lengths to win. What if that treasure is you? <\/p>\n
Are you presenting yourself as a treasure, a person of great worth? You do that by being your authentic self. The right kind of man respects consistency and self esteem in a woman and he won\u2019t ask you to change into something you aren\u2019t.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"