{"id":1467,"date":"2019-11-19T10:29:38","date_gmt":"2019-11-19T15:29:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/christian.bestsingledating.com\/?p=1467"},"modified":"2019-08-21T13:18:46","modified_gmt":"2019-08-21T18:18:46","slug":"dating-deal-breaker-unresolved-personal-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/christian.bestsingledating.com\/index.php\/dating-advice\/1467\/dating-deal-breaker-unresolved-personal-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating Deal Breaker: Unresolved Personal Issues"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Every person in the world is going to have some emotional wounds given to them by life experiences. Most people go on to get through their issues by working them out or seeking the advice of a counselor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having experienced personal problems is nothing to be ashamed of and is normal. However, dragging these issues around with you, especially on dates is when it becomes a problem.<\/p>\n

Personal issues that are deal breakers involve things like not being able to let go and move on from anything that hurt you emotionally and springing that upset on your date. Your date doesn\u2019t want to hear about the times your former friend stole money from you or skipped out without paying rent.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to hear about daddy issues. She doesn\u2019t want to hear about your issues with your mom or your dad. Or your siblings. Or your neighbors. If those things are still eating away at you, it\u2019s a sign that you need to deal with them rather than date and talk about them.<\/p>\n

Your date doesn\u2019t want to hear about a list of problems that were someone else\u2019s fault. It makes you sound whiny and immature. If you have a personal issue that\u2019s driven you to try to deal with it through the development of an addiction, that\u2019s a definite deal breaker.<\/p>\n

Having an addiction with drugs isn\u2019t something that\u2019s fair to expect another person to have to deal with, especially someone that you don\u2019t even know that well. It puts too much on them emotionally.<\/p>\n

If you have an addiction with drugs or with alcohol, take care of it and get well before you seek a relationship. An addiction can introduce a level of upheaval into a relationship that can add a lot of drama.<\/p>\n

When there\u2019s an addiction, the person that you\u2019re dating never gets to know who you really are because the addition can mask that. People with an alcohol or drug addiction can often have varying mood swings and that\u2019s not a good way to begin a relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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