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\"whatOnline dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Change your mind set from \u201cwinning\u201d to \u201csearching\u201d. This isn\u2019t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren\u2019t YOUR idea of the perfect guy\u2026 the one the all women want.<\/p>\n

What is that women want, you ask? That\u2019s the age old question. I can tell you a few things women want and don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n

Women want a man to be confident\u2026 NOT an arrogant jerk.<\/strong> There\u2019s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don\u2019t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don\u2019t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can\u2019t live up to that expectation.<\/p>\n

Women want a communicator.<\/strong> The \u201cstrong silent type\u201d really isn\u2019t appealing at all. They think you probably don\u2019t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven\u2019t heard a word they said, either or that you just don\u2019t care what they said or didn\u2019t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.<\/p>\n

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won.<\/strong> They don\u2019t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.<\/p>\n

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