The biggest reason that so many men end up frustrated when they try to pick up a woman is because they try so hard yet can’t figure out where they went wrong when they keep getting a no rather than a yes.

Ninety percent of the time, this failure is found in the way that a man tries to talk to a woman. When a man is interested in a woman, he’ll sometimes open up the conversation and start talking.

And he’ll talk and talk and talk until she’s thinking what a bore he is. But the guy is thinking if he tells her all about himself, he’ll appear interesting and she’ll see how great the idea of the two of them going out is.

When men do this, not only do they tend to ramble on about stuff that makes women’s eyes glaze over, but they fail to realize that the woman isn’t truly listening.

Her eyes are darting around, looking for a way to extricate herself from the conversation. What a man should do is to stop focusing on himself. Stop trying to impress her and stop sounding like an overeager puppy.

When you try too hard, it doesn’t impress a woman. In fact, it backfires. She’ll see you as too needy and cut the conversation off. If this sounds like something that’s happened to you more often than not, it’s time to change your approach.

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You have to forget about trying to impress her and let her draw her own conclusions. She’s going to anyway. When you’re having a conversation with a woman, you need to look her in the eye.

If you let your gaze travel lower, you’re not winning any points. Women hate it when men start talking to them, especially when meeting for the first time, and immediately stare at their chest.

This is the area where most men drop the ball. They just don’t know how to have to a conversation with a woman. It’s a lot different than talking to your buddies. Women not only are more emotional, but they will look for deeper meaning in a conversation than what might actually exist.

But don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because a woman is more emotional that she’s not as intelligence or capable of seeing beyond a pick up line.

Women know the lines men use in conversation, so forget about those and aim for genuine conversations instead. The way to have a winning conversation with a woman is fairly simple.

You have to show interest in her, not her body. Be interested in her life. Find out what she does for work – what her hobbies are. You can ask questions about her beliefs in certain trending topics.

If she’s responding in short, cryptic answers, she could feel threatened by all of the questions you’re asking, as if you’re too nosy. For every good guy that tries to pick up a woman, there are five weirdoes who’ve already tried, so that could explain her caution.

Women want to have conversations to be heard, to be understood. When a woman feels that a man has heard her, that he’s understood her, she’ll be more open to dating him again.