My parents meant well, but in some ways they have really made social development difficult for me. You see, I was home-schooled as a kid, and kind of isolated from all the rest of the kids my age. I never got to hang out with the neighborhood girls growing up, or to go to parties. When I had my first date – at the age of 16 – my dad gave me some simple dating advice. He told me that as long as you are polite to a girl and really act like a gentleman, it will always be easy to meet nice young ladies.
Needless to say, his dating tips did not serve me well in life. I had little experience to go on when I got to college and wanted to go out and meet girls, and no good advice on dating. What was worse, I did not know where to go for dating tips. Most of the guys were eager to give out a dating tip to anyone who would listen, but they were always pretty crude about it. They had dating tips for men that basically all centered around how to get a girl to let you spend the night. I wasn’t really interested in that kind of relationship, but I could not find meaningful relationship advice.
The problem is that everyone wants to feel like an expert on matters of love. Everyone will offer you dating tips whether or not you ask. Whether it was my roommate commenting on the shirts that I would wear when I went out on dates, or my best friend talking about what movie we should go to, I could not find many people who did not have something to say. I still could not find any dating tips that I trusted, and now I was overwhelmed with a lot of advice that I did not want.
I tried writing into a dating advice column, but that did me no good. They would not answer my question as it was not racy enough. Finally, I gave up on dating tips. I knew that whatever I learned about love and romance I would have to learn myself. It took me some time to figure out how to meet women, but I did figure it out. It turns out that, once you are no longer afraid to talk to them, it is easy.