Your soul mate may very well indeed be waiting around online, but make sure to be well- prepared before you jump into the pool of modern-day dating.
From fun to displeasure, from bliss to sorrow, from contentment to dissatisfaction – you will experience it all. Expect online dating to be an emotional roller coaster ride to say the least, so always buckle up. When it comes to online dating, dating mistakes are very common. But, you just have to keep trying and move forward. In the first place, no one forced you to be there. It was your decision to take this ride. To achieve success in the online dating arena, here are some tips that will help you find that one person with whom you can share the magic of true love down the road.
Know your objectives
Before you even sit in front of the computer and go on a virtual date, you first need to know what your dating objectives are. Are you looking just to have fun and meet new people, or are you looking to find a potential partner in life? If you don’t know what you want or need, you will never get it. You won’t know if you have found Mr. Right, even if you’re already chatting with him since day one. One of the biggest mistakes you can do while dating online is to navigate the World Wide Web without direction. Have a goal, and stick to it while you’re scouring the market for potential friends and partners.
Set realistic expectations
Now, after figuring out your dating objective, it’s time for you to set realistic expectations and throw away all the unrealistic images you may have processed internally as a child from fairy tale books. Who wouldn’t like to believe that a knight in shining armor really does exist? However, if you always expect your online date to be extremely handsome, rich, and ready to take you on a roller coaster romantic adventure, then you may always end up being disappointed. If your criteria are too high, you will never be satisfied meeting ordinary men who have an eight-hour job just like you. To achieve success in online dating, you’ve got to avoid retreating into fairy tale books and accept the reality that Prince Charming is just a fictional character that belongs to Cinderella – who is, by the way, is another fictional character.
Don’t give out too much information… yet.
The moment you decide to go into the online dating process, you have to be careful not to share too much information too soon. The horrible stories of identity theft, fraud, and other cyber crimes that originate from internet dating are real. When it comes to online dating, dating anonymously for a while is recommended. This doesn’t mean that you have to use another name or home address and pretend to be somebody that you are not. Just don’t reveal important identifying information about yourself too early during the getting-to-know-each-other stage. You can always use your real first name, or the city where you live. But, keep your surname and exact home address anonymous for a little bit. There is a right moment to disclose personal information. No one can tell you exactly when, but it’s definitely not going to be during the first few weeks of interaction.
In general, love seekers are not interested in playing games (unless he or she is a bad bet). But, the cyber world is different. Anyone can pretend to be somebody else. You’re not lying, you’re just being careful at the start.
Take things slowly
Love at first sight… online? Don’t make the mistake of believing that love happens easily and that you can instantly fall in love with someone simply by seeing his picture and chatting with him online. Unlike in the movies, forming relationships continues on after the “credits roll”. Know if he’s on the same page as you. If you feel that you make a perfect match after months of dating online, then by all means reveal your phone number now and meet up with him!
The first few dates must be done in public
After all the countless hours of chatting and talking on the phone, the time has come to make the online date a real date and meet each other in person. But, where do you do it? Definitely not in the guy’s apartment. This is common sense, but when it comes to online dating, sometimes even the obvious needs to be said. Be sure to meet up in a place where there are people around. This not only ensures your safety, but it also ensures that both of you are in your best behaviors during your first real date.
Many people who are into online interaction tend to live their dating lives in the Castle, seeing contorted images of reality and hoping that they’ll meet their very own Prince Charming. But, when it comes to online dating, dating realistically does matter. Dating online can take you anywhere. Be sure to approach the situation with extra caution and maturity. So what if the first date didn’t turn out well? As they say, there are many fish in the sea. In time, all the waiting and searching will be worth it. Just don’t allow a single case of failure and disenchantment ruin all your hopes of finding love online.